Do you feel like your husband is sabotaging your fitness goals? Not intentionally, but does he eat and bring home food that will set you back or trigger a series of unhealthy habits? Yea, mine did too until I got him on board with my lifestyle change.
My husband, Daniel is my best friend and I know he’ll do whatever it takes to see me happy and feeling my best. But, he’s never struggled with weight issues.
Daniel is one of those people. You know, the ones who can eat whatever they want and not gain a pound. He naturally has a relatively lean body and a six-pack without even trying. How unfair is that? Don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining. I love his body. He just can’t relate to my struggles with food, body image and weight loss.
When we first started dating, he ate bacon cheeseburgers almost every day. Cereal, milk, waffle mix and pizza boxes were the only things in his kitchen. There wasn’t a vegetable in sight unless his mother was in town. So, needless to say, it took awhile for him to adjust.
Eventually, though I did get him to come around and here’s how.
Okay, I didn’t actually sit him down. As a mom of two under two, I didn’t have time for that. But, the point is, there came a time when I had to let him know that I needed his support.
My husband is naturally a “fixer” — the guy who wants to fix everybody’s problems. So, when I told him what my goals were and that I needed his support it totally clicked. A light bulb went off and he got it.
When he said okay, what do you need me to do? I told him. That’s the key with our husband’s isn’t it? The more specific we can be the better chance we have of getting what we need or want.
Here’s what I said:
I got my husband on board was with results.
My husband had a front row seat to my transformation. He saw how I consistently made time for the gym and made better choices when it came to nutrition. He saw how the changes affected my body confidence, energy and overall joy for life.
He appreciated my effort to make our home a healthier place.
As my passion began to grow I couldn’t help but share what I was learning. The more I learned the more he learned. Even when it didn’t seem like he was listening, he was. When he started texting me pictures of salads instead of burgers and fries I knew we had a breakthrough.
Getting my husband to understand that I needed his support was the most important step. Showing him the benefits of a healthier lifestyle made the biggest impact. But there were also a few practical things I did as well.
None of these changes happened right away. I had to practice patience.
Habit change is hard and we don’t get it right, right away.
As I said before, my husband can eat whatever he wants and not gain a pound. Of course, that’s not the healthiest thing to do. But, he looked good and felt fine so he didn’t have a big reason to want to change.
There were many days it felt like an uphill battle. Like I was in it alone.
I was the leader of health in our home and my commitment to this lifestyle change propelled me through the tough days.
I knew he would eventually come around.
Do your spouse or loved ones support your healthy lifestyle? If not, how have you gotten them on board with your lifestyle change?